Child abuse is a yarn
that we continue to spin like an old haggard weaving machine struggling for
breath, but what we sometimes fail to understand are the psychological
consequences of repeated trauma experienced in childhood. Abuse and trauma in
childhood forms and deforms the victim’s personality, but in adulthood erodes
the structure of the personality that has been already formed from childhood
through adolescence. The child who is often
held tight in an abusive environment is compelled to adapt to various
situations. The child must find a way to trust people who he perceives as not trust-able he must create safety in largely unsafe situations and find control
in circumstances that are often very unpredictable and dangerous. The
psychological processes and the developmental tasks involved in how the child
adapts to these situations are worthy of study.
Child abuse is seen to take place in familiar surroundings
like the child’s own home in which ordinary care taking relationships have been
disrupted. There are distinguishing patterns that can be observed about how
this abuse takes place. One form could be the use of violence, death threats,
totalitarian control and the breaking up of all other relationships through
isolation, secrecy and sometimes betrayal. These forms of coercion and
enforcement of rules are often unpredictable but sometimes there are also
instances where highly organized patterns of punishment are seen. For example, this could be related to
political prisoners where their bodily mechanisms are forcibly controlled
through force feeding, sleep deprivation, starvation, use of enemas, or the
prolonged exposure to heat and cold. In some cases violence and abuse can be
almost ritualistic like in pornography or in various religious cults.
Children who face chronic abuse develop ways of coping with the danger they are exposed to. There is a constant state of arousal and alertness and it is known that children in abusive situations are extremely adept at recognizing warning signs of an imminent attack. This could be through the careful observation of the attacker’s facial expressions, body language, sexual arousal etc. It is seen that the child uses these observations as a mechanism for survival. The attacker would be placated or the child would try to avoid any confrontation. There are also instances where children attempt to please their abuser by being extra obedient and they try to gain maximum control of the situation by “trying to be good”. These methods of survival become second nature to the child because it is sometimes the only hope they have in an utterly helpless situation.
There is also an interesting notion which suggests that
children who live in violent homes often find ways to form primary attachments
to caregivers who they perceive as dangerous and violent. There needs to be a
way to develop a sense of trust and safety with adults who are
untrustworthy. Self-soothing mechanisms
are used to bring about a sense of comfort; bodily functions are regulated in
an environment where the child’s body is at the disposal of others, and the
ability to totally confirm with the perpetrator’s behavior. There is also a
need for the child to find meaning in the suffering that he is going
through. A connection can be made to
existentialism where preserving hope and meaning in entirely hopeless
situations is considered important to forego the alternative which is utter
despair. It is common that the victim here will find ways to preserve his faith
in his attackers who are often his parents and will go to any extreme to rid
the perpetrator’s of any blame. It is therefore understood that all of the
child’s psychological adaptations serve just one fundamental purpose that is to
preserve his primary attachment to her in the face of chronic abuse and sometimes
just plain indifference. Attachment becomes an important area of interest here
because of the child’s innate need for safety and security and when this is not
achieved, it could lead to complications in adulthood where the victim would
find it difficult to form and maintain relationships and most often to trust
others.
The experience of violence and abuse at a young age could
later manifest itself in the form of different psychological and psychosomatic
disorders. This is of utmost importance for mental health professionals and
others involved in helping victims of child abuse even after they mature into
adulthood. There are numerous instances where patients report various physical and
psychological symptoms and the causal factors for these symptoms are often
misidentified. Therefore, even though treatment could reduce or modify existing
symptoms, the memories and images of horrifying acts of violence and abuse
experienced will still remain like an old wound that’s just begun to
bleed.
They will bleed; till they can
bleed no more and one can only hope that it won’t be too late.
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